Self- confidence , personal development, self-esteem… So many elements that we strive to work on throughout the year to gain more personality and charisma towards others. But sometimes a few clicks are enough, without questioning everything in our daily lives.
This is what we are going to show you through this article.
1 – Work on your natural elegance
Ideally, the charisma is seen without you having to open your mouth and say a single word. You know, that kind of person who walks into a room and immediately conjures up an isolating image of confidence and power.
It is undeniable that at this first level only the physical aspect comes into play. It is about clothing, the care he puts into his image (including false carelessness), his haircut… and his behavior: attitude, gestures, gait, openness towards others, etc…
What you have to understand, and it is also easier to apply, is that this person with the obvious charisma… does not do it to please others, but to please him! Proof ? When the true charismatic leader decides…he doesn’t look back to see if he has convinced others to follow him…he moves forward knowing others are following him.
So our advice may seem a little «selfish»… but learn to take care of yourself without seeking approval and enjoying yourself to the fullest… and you’ll get attention without even looking for it.
2 – Build your values and respect them
Do you have values? Why ? You will give a new dimension to your personality.
“But I already have values? » Of course, friendship, fidelity, family, peace, ethics, sincerity… are beautiful values that should unite us… But the charism actually responds to much deeper and more demanding values. In fact, not all of them! What do you say to these: support (to others), resilience, rigor, will, the meaning of your life, tolerance, serenity, satisfaction, solidarity….
Unlike the first category, the second requires most of the time, an action on your part, a proactive approach that requires your commitment. At the end of the week, make a list of 50 values that apply to you and select 5 of them that require action on your part. If you manage to achieve them, whatever your level of commitment, your charisma will take a real leap forward! The secret: feel useful to others. Beware, it’s pretty powerful (if you really do it, of course)!
3 – Expand your social circle
Having charisma only in front of your mirror is a good start. Now that your elegance is at its best, it’s time to confront you… with real life. of life in society. It is the complementary concept of self-esteem, the image one has of oneself, and self-confidence, the actions that one is capable of performing in a social environment. By developing your circle of friends, partners or other people, you will learn to behave more with others… And this is the last key to have a relentless charisma. To do this you have to (even if it costs you a bit) get in touch with people. Don’t try to please or make yourself interesting… Offer a good time… Offer to listen… Offer “added value” whatever it is. In short, care about others. Do it at work, at school, at university, when you go to buy your baguette, when paying at the supermarket, at your sports club… Your interlocutors will no longer be able to do without you!
The further you go Interact with people , the more you cultivate new experiences… that will make you exciting… interesting… captivating… And your charisma in all this? At that time, you will no longer have to look for it: you will already have it!
