“One lost, ten found! …Seriously, who coined that phrase?
To recover from a breakup, we all agree that there is no miracle recipe. So we usually do everything that should not be done, because everything is good to drink to deceive evil, food, alcohol, hookups, medication… In short, if you have already experienced it, or are experiencing it, you know about what we are talking about.
In this article we offer you a natural and effective remedy that can help you a lot to recover from a breakup: writing. For that, it is not necessary to be the incarnation of Victor Hugo. You will see…
Why choose to write to recover from a breakup?
To say it, bring out all that emotional storm that has taken over you body and soul since she (or he) is gone. We speak here of love breakup but it also works in a more general way after any period of loss or disappointment, be it natural, family, friendly, professional… In short, keeping all these emotions inside is a source of psychological suffering. that we inflict on ourselves and that can, in the more or less long term, express itself in the form of physical illness.
To heal from a breakup, it is essential to learn to live fully with grief. It can be scary to give in to your own emotions. But deleting them will only block the process. Writing is a good alternative for the emotionally handicapped… It will allow you to express what you feel, in total privacy. Who will judge you? The pen ? The blank page?
Writing is a simple way to liberate intensely , to go to meet oneself by putting words to what one feels. From writing often come the answers that we desperately seek but that we already carry inside, although sometimes buried… Writing thus allows us to say and finally accept what we refuse to admit. Therefore, choosing writing, to reach «the unknown that one carries within oneself», as the great Marguerite Duras said.
Writing will be especially beneficial for the most introverted and lonely gentlemen. And incidentally also for those who want to save the ears of their friends whose ears are broken too much by dint of ruminating on their breakup…
Even the scientists say so…
A study conducted by scientists at the University of Arizona in the United States revealed that writing about your breakup would have significant positive effects on your body and mind. This would notably reduce blood pressure as well as cardiovascular disorders. To know more, it is here.
Write, it’s fine… but how do you do it?
Writing to recover from a breakup is within everyone’s reach! As we said earlier, we’re talking about therapeutic writing here, not literary writing, so don’t worry if you’re not familiar with this exercise. Just let yourself go through this sadness and take up the pen, on the computer or on paper, in a small notebook especially dedicated to this, for example. It will be like the record book of your breakup.You can transcribe there day after day, the thoughts that worry you, what makes you sad, mad with rage, everything that goes through your head! Either way, no one will read you. It’s between you and yourself, so don’t be afraid to be ridiculous. In this way, you will learn to live with your sadness, it is the only way to truly heal from a breakup. This may seem trivial to you, but without realizing it, by putting words to what you feel, you symbolically digest the breakup and distance yourself.
Actually, to write, there are no rules on the matter. Write when the need arises. , as soon as you feel a wave of emotions going through you, or a knot in your stomach that weighs you down. If you prefer, you can also plan a writing ritual at a certain time or in a particular setting. It’s up to you !
But if you want some advice, to be more comfortable, you can wait until you are completely alone in the dim environment of the room to get your notebook out of the drawer… If you have a hard time getting started, there is an unstoppable trick. to facilitate the exercise: listen to sad music so that your grief grows. The rest will come by itself. In fact, you may have already done so. Listening to music tends to heighten our emotions and feelings. In the long run, this allows you to better deal with your pain instead of repressing it.
Hoping to have convinced you gentlemen, to go ahead and maybe, who knows, let love be invited at the beginning of the year…
