Is the first date coming up and you’re stressed? Doubts are pushed, what are you going to talk about? How to camouflage this ugly button that you just pressed? What if they had nothing to say to each other? How to look relaxed? Whether you’re 15 or 77, if you really like her (or him), you’re not at peace and that’s normal… But don’t panic, you’ve come to the right place! In this article we give you the 5 golden rules so that everything goes like clockwork on your first date…
Rule #1: There are no golden rules for a successful first date.
But don’t come back, it’s not a bad joke! What I mean is that each date is unique, because you are unique. There is no universal recipe. TRUST YOURSELF! Only you have the recipe. We can give you countless tips, some may work for your neighbor but not for you, or vice versa. The only golden rules to follow for this first date will be your own! Do what you want. Here we simply give you a little reminder of the rules of common sense… In short, to stay with culinary metaphors, if the mayonnaise should take this first meeting it will be because you are what you are, simply. !
So we come to the next rule…
Rule #2: Damn yourself!
What could be more charming than a man who dares to show himself as he is? I do not see. If you want to wear a kilt for your first date, wear a kilt! The most important thing is to be in tune with yourself. So, of course, you run the risk that the beauty will not like it (and yes, not everyone likes kilts…). But it is much better in reality. Either way, you are a winner. If it matches, you’re good! And if not, you will be (very) disappointed, of course… But at least things will be clear. Either way, if you try to fool who you are, it will show… Seriously, life is too short to waste your time playing with someone else to please others… You are what you are, I like it so much Better do not do it. like, byeGoodbye , Sayonara ! _
Rule #3: Don’t try to «get over» your shyness.
This rule is an extension of the previous one… The more you get tired trying to hide your shyness, the more havoc it will cause! Seriously, that would be like trying to hide a cow in a hallway… Your shyness won’t magically disappear on that first date. It is a fact. So the best way to deal with it is to accept it, let go of it!
And then if it weighs too much on you, tell your date. Make him understand with humor that you are rather shy, even shy… Don’t be afraid, you won’t lose your manhood. It is even the opposite. You dare to assume your weaknesses, you do not try to hide them. And that is to die for! And contrary to what men think, shyness can become a considerable attraction in the eyes of some women. And then that’s a good sign, it shows you’re not one of those professional flirts…
Rule #4: Only listen and keep an open mind.
The goal of the first date is to get to know each other. For this, it is very important to open your ears well! Keep an eye out for topics that seem to interest you, be curious, and pick yourself up, even if they’re not your favorite topics. In short, take the time to get to know him. But don’t rush. I mean, learning about each other doesn’t mean bombarding them with questions! Be calm. If there must be some blank spaces, do not seek to fill them at all costs. Contrary to popular belief, silence is a formidable communication tool. Sometimes even more revealing than words, it leaves room for eye games, gestures… It’s also very useful for breathing new life into the conversation and giving it more depth.
Rule #5: Talk about whatever you want…but not about your exes!
As we said before, the first date allows you to get to know the other. There are no «standard topics» to discuss on a first date. Do what you feel. If there is feeling, the topics of conversation will come to you quite naturally. But on the other hand, please don’t talk about your exes! This may seem obvious to some, but it’s not for everyone…
Exes (usually) are no longer on the agenda. Talking about it would be of absolutely no interest, aside from creating awkwardness and putting your first date in the dust. Also, if you still need to talk about it, you may need to ask yourself the right questions, sir…
And you, do you have a golden rule before a first date? Maybe a couple of lucky charms?
