Every day, in the world, there are more than 400,000 births. Becoming a father is therefore quite common. Paradoxically, just as amazing. His first cry will surely mark the first day of the rest of his life… Therefore, it is normal to apprehend this moment. But really, you don’t have to panic, just because you’ll get by! Especially with these valuable tips that we are about to give you…
Tip #1: Get involved in preparing for the birth
This may seem obvious, but it is still deeply rooted in our society (and therefore in our little heads) that it is above all a matter of women since they are the ones who are pregnant. No! Get involved in the list of things to buy, find out, compare to make the right choice of furniture (changing table, chest of drawers, stroller, etc.). Then, accompany Madame to all of her medical appointments and participate in childbirth preparation classes. It’s ALL about you. very important too, you have to worry about the choice of motherhood. Some offer to host you as a couple, so you can spend the night with your mother… Unfortunately, this is not the case in all establishments. Therefore, it is essential to investigate it in order to experience this birth in the best conditions. Be there for your partner, ready to listen and grit your teeth if hormones play a role in their mood.
Tip #2: If you still don’t feel like a daron, don’t feel guilty!
Every man lives and feels things differently. If you still don’t feel like a parent, don’t blame yourself. We’re not in an afternoon TV movie on M6, it’s not magic! Be self-indulgent and apply tip #1 carefully. It will come in time. Without realizing it, you will gradually acquire the stature of a true daron!
Tip #3: Learn more than ever to listen to yourself
Pregnancy is a real physical and psychological disorder for the mother… but you are not left out. And to take care of her, you also have to take care of yourself. You’re going to have to act, so now is not the time to forget about yourself. Take into account what you are feeling right now and give yourself moments of relaxation when necessary, through meditation for example. Don’t play the perfect father-to-be, that doesn’t exist… You also have the right to be bothered by this period. Neglecting what happens inside you is detrimental to your well-being and therefore to the whole family! Do not wear a muzzle, on the contrary, talk about it with your partner. This way you will form a good team when the beetle arrives.
Tip n°4: do not hide behind Madame…
That is what you will be tempted to do… And that is not surprising given the place that the father occupies in our society. During medical appointments, in the maternity ward, in day care, at school, there is a strong (bad) possibility that you will be made to feel that you are not in your place, that you have nothing or little. However, it is your place, claim it! Ask questions, take the initiative. As you may have understood, this tip is directly related to the first. Despite what they will make you feel, this pregnancy affects you as much as it affects your wife.
Tip n°5: document yourself to understand… but not too much!
Documenting yourself will help you prepare for the baby’s arrival, but it will also help you better live through this period of pregnancy full of doubts. If he can put your mind at ease, all you have to do is go to your local bookstore to find everything you need to know about parenting (in theory)! There are also many podcasts that deal with multiple topics around the father’s place in our society, often with humor, as well as a host of testimonials from future dads like you, faced with the same galleys… in short, something to relax a little! ! But don’t spend all of your time learning about parenting… experience it your way!
Tip #6: Don’t listen too much to advisors…
Rather… ironic advice. But certainly the most useful. During this period, you will meet many mums and dads with lots and lots of advice in store to give you. Nod your head if you want, but keep in mind that you and your loved one are the only ones capable of making the right decisions to prepare for the arrival of your baby.
Are there future darons around here? Express yourself in the comments to tell us your moments of joy and your big problems!
