Nowadays, many relationships begin with virtual flirtations through text messages, messages on social networks or dating sites… Because epistolary relationships, written in pencil or on touch screens, contain an irresistible mystery, that of exploring the another out of sight. What often lends itself to confidences, to seduction… Decisive before meeting for the first time or waiting for the next date…
In this article we give you what we think are the 4 golden rules of virtual flirting…
Rule n°1: stick to what you write…
The virtual world sometimes pushes us to pretend what we are not, especially in seduction games… It’s true, there, alone behind your screen, you are free to write whatever you want… Then, suddenly, it can become very tempting to pass yourself off as whoever you want, apply the advice of these good old friends who call themselves professional seducers to paint yourself the image of a man who you are not, for example, more confident or flirtatious… But please, do not give in to them! the temptation! Reality could suddenly catch up with you…
To definitely cut you off from the desire to pretend to be the Casanova of virtual lands when you are rather shy and reserved, imagine the moment of loneliness that you will feel once in front of your date… He or she will surely take you to a sad guy who does not assume what it is, and far beyond your date, it is your self-esteem that will undoubtedly be the most damaged.
Consequently, to avoid this and put the odds on your side for a successful first date, the first rule of thumb for respecting remote flirting is, without a doubt, to be yourself.
Rule n°2: do not play especially not the card of the busy man who answers 6 hours later!
Let’s be clear. Nowadays, most of us spend our time with our phones in our pockets, agree? And replying to a message only takes a few minutes (or even seconds), we agree. Whoever you are, surely you have the means to spend at most five measly minutes of your time getting to know the person who catches your eye… Unless that’s not really the case. You’re obviously not told to drop everything as soon as your phone starts vibrating anyway. A happy medium, gentlemen! Let’s say you’ve been busy all day, the least you can do is justify your late reply, at the risk of suggesting disdain…
And in case you’re not too much of a smartphone, messages… tell him! Let him understand why your response times are like the journey of a carrier pigeon…
Rule n°3: On the contrary, don’t be too pushy either…
Yeah, remember that it ‘s all about the middle ground. Pay attention to the signs… If your interlocutor is a bit concise, don’t insist. Nerd ! Concrete and typical examples, «closed» answers that do not lend themselves to fueling the discussion, if they answer your question without adding the little «what about you?» » at the end of the message, if you receive a “Mdr” or an “Ok” without salt as they say… That is the time to loosen the messages because it is very likely that unfortunately the interest you have in it is not reciprocal. Of course, there are exceptions… Maybe you said something he didn’t like… Besides, you should also know that some people are reluctant to write because they fear the tyranny of spelling…
If you have any doubts and you want it to be clear, put your cards on the table by clearly asking him if he likes you or not.
Rule #4: Don’t hesitate to get to the heart of the matter…
We often equate virtual flirting with something very light, where seduction and humor are the keywords. Certainly. But keep in mind that virtual conversations often mark the beginning of a real relationship. That is why, first of all, it is important to lay the foundations, going straight to the heart of the matter. What kind of relationship is she (he) looking for? How long have you been single? Is it definitely over with his ex? These questions are not very glamorous, right?, but so essential to not create false hopes and waste time talking to someone who is not looking for the same thing as you.
Whatever your intentions (whether serious or short-lived), asking the right questions from the start will make you sound like a man who knows what he wants. And that… We love it!
And you then, are you more of a Casanova of virtual lands or of old-fashioned encounters in the middle of a pupil? Tell us in the comments!
