Sometimes we think that… and in fact it is not so. A woman pleases you, you think about giving her a compliment and without realizing it, you have blown all your cards. In this article, we give you a small (non-exhaustive) list of «compliments» to ban, simply because although they may seem like it, they are not.
“You are a very beautiful woman…for your age”
These types of sentences start well and end very… very badly. In general, banish from your vocabulary all phrases that end in «for your age» (or refer to age in general) when you want to compliment a woman. The greed, why bring her back to her age? On the one hand, we don’t care. On the other hand, although that is not your intention, these types of comments insinuate that «normally» at her age you look like an old castaway but that she is fine, she passes. It is very rude. Do not do that.
«How is it that a woman as beautiful as you is still single?» »
With this phrase, you think you are offering a compliment in disguise, right? is not one Actually, with this phrase, you are likely to pass for a great clumsy. Ok, tell her you find her beautiful. great . But the question is very embarrassing. Seriously, what do you want me to tell you? In your mind, this question may imply another «what’s wrong with you?» «. You return her to her celibacy as if it were a shameful disease, an anomaly. NO, really, forget it.
«My ex doesn’t get close to you»
HELP Now, comparisons in terms of compliments are, by nature, risky. But there, in a nutshell, you pick up the kettledrums. Nothing worse than making comparisons with your ex, especially if they didn’t ask you. On the one hand, it will send a clear message, you are still thinking about your ex. On the other hand, he is extremely rude. The woman you covet will certainly feel like a comparison between two cars. The person you have in front of you is unique, focus on it.
«I like shy women»
This (fake) compliment is certainly not the worst, but if you can help it, that’s a good thing! It’s often the kind of thing you’re likely to say on a first date to defuse the situation, to reassure her. Yes, but… it is not the right solution. First, shy people generally have one thing in common: they go to great lengths to hide it (even if it never works). With this «compliment», you notify him that you have noticed. And what’s worse, you generalize by putting her in the «shy girls» box. This is very reductive. She may conclude that this is the only thing you noticed about her, at least the first thing. Anyway, avoid generalities whatever they are «I like girls like this or like that», which catalog women…
» You are magnificent ! «
In general, when you approach a woman on the street or meet her, avoid gender superlatives. Yeah, because the woman you covet must have heard this too often. You will be just the 372 man to repay this «compliment» to her. And besides, superlatives often have a reputation for hiding a certain hypocrisy… Surely your compliment will pass for flattery. Therefore, you risk giving the impression of being a conversationalist willing to do anything to achieve his ends, which he does the same with all women. She won’t take you seriously and you will fuel her mistrust…
«You’re beautiful for a black/asian…»
We save the worst for last. I was hesitant to put it on the list because obviously we’re not talking about compliments here but…you never know. Is it necessary to expand more on this type of problematic sentences? It is simply an expression of ordinary racism. Then we forget and quickly question ourselves.
To conclude, before you flatter, think. Think about the meaning of your sentence. You may have heard it hundreds of times from others, but that doesn’t mean these kinds of «fake» compliments are validated. Take the time to put yourself in the shoes of the person you are trying to compliment. Ask yourself. A compliment worthy of the name must be sweet to hear. If you have any doubts, don’t say anything. Silences are important in seduction and have the advantage of letting the eyes speak. And you know what they say, contrary to words, appearances are not deceiving!
If not, have you ever given these kinds of (fake) compliments? Which one ? Did you realize how troublesome that was? Tell us in the comments!